My name is Gayanu-Tamang. I am 28 years old. I come from am from the Kavre district in Nepal. I am one of 5 children.
When I was just 14 a close relative tricked me into marrying a man who they said was perfect and nice for me. I did not know this man but we were married anyway. When I was 15 I had my first child who was a boy. 3 years later I had a baby girl
When I had my baby girl the childbirth had many complications. I was very sick and almost died from anemia. When my husband found out I was sick from the pregnancy he begun to abuse me. When I recovered we got into a fight and he attacked me with a wooden plank, leaving me mentally ill for 4 months. Soon after this he left me and never returned. I was left to look after my daughter and son on my own. This was a very difficult task for me as we had little money so I decided to leave my children with my parents, get a loan and go to Kuwait, to try and earn more money for the family.
I got a job as a housemaid in Kuwait and was abused by the family. If I didn’t do something exactly the way they wanted they would get angry at me and physically abuse me. One time the woman pulled a knife at me and threatened to kill me. I was treated like a slave. After all this the family said I was not worthy of their pay so I worked 6 months for them, being abused and threatened, and never got paid.
When I came back I stayed in Nepal for 6 months. I met a man and fell in love. During this time I had the chance to go to Dubai for more work so I took my chances in order to help my family. Working in Dubai was better but then the man I fell in love with called my work and made them send me back to Nepal. I still live with this man but I am having a difficult time as he is controlling me a lot.
I feel I have gone through so much suffering in my life but somehow the universe keeps me alive every day and makes me stronger. I found Local Women’s Handicrafts through another lady who works here. She told me I could come and learn something and gain skills that can help to improve my life so i decided to come.
The most important thing for me right now is to take care of Local Women’s Handicrafts as they have taken care of me. I want to work hard to help this organisation improve so it can help many women. I want to participate in the change that is happening here. It inspires me every day.
My message to women around the world is to not listen to other people’s comments and ridicules. Always follow your heart.